I am a mother of two. I have been blessed with a beautiful daughter and a handsome son. When my son came into this world with a head full of hair I had no idea how to care for it. Would it be the same process as my daughter’s? Do the same rules apply? I had no clue. So, I went to my number one source for information. The internet. Unfortunately, although the natural hair community is vast there is very little information out there devoted to little princes. I found videos upon videos of styles and treatments that were suitable for both me and my daughter but hardly anything for my little guy. Now after nearly three years of trial and error I have a greater understanding of boy hair care and I hope to pass on a few gems to my readers.
In my first blog post, I spoke briefly about creating a hair goal for yourself. I also believe that is important for boys too. Whether you goal is braids, a fro, fade, or locs it is important to tailor your goal with your time availability and your child’s comfort level. My son let it be known early he was not into having his hair styled so I knew braids or even locs were a no no. Also having a daughter with waist length hair played a huge factor in my decision. I knew that having two kids with hair would most likely leave Mommy bald literally. LOL. So, I had my goal, a head of healthy short hair soon but until the time was right he would sport a fro full of his beautiful coils.
Less is more with little boys’ hair. I wash and deep condition my daughter’s weekly but I realized quickly that my son didn’t need his hair washed that frequently. I normally rotate cowashing and wash/deep conditioning my son’s hair every two weeks. The latter I normally do after a trip to the barbershop which I will touch on soon. When it comes to cowashes I love Deva Curl’s Decadence No-Poo Wash and a quick rinse through with the Decadence conditioner. For shampoo, I use Giovanni’s Tea Tree Oil Clarifying Shampoo. Which I notice helps to cleanse his hair completely of product build up. I recommend using baby shampoos until your child is comfortable getting his hair washed. Due to my son’s dandruff prone scalp, I upgraded to adult shampoo after a dermatologist recommended it. For his monthly deep condition, I use my all-time favorite Mielle Organics Babassu Oil Conditioner. After applying the conditioner and combing through his hair I cover his hair with a plastic cap and allow the treatment to stay in for 15 mins and rinse. After rinsing I simply spray on leave-in and apply hair milk and brush and he’s free to run around.
So many mothers ask when do I know my son is ready for his first haircut? I had this same question. As much as I love my son’s springy coils he did not want to deal with detangling or combing. My fiancé rocks a clean-cut fade but was my baby boy ready to have clippers on his head yet? After consulting with two master barbers I was told not to use clippers on a child’s head under one year old. Depending on your preference you can even wait longer and cut gradually until he’s able to sit still without being totally put off by the sound of clippers. This is the approach we used for my son. At about two years of age he got his first hair cut which really is better described as trim that was accomplished with hair shears. We continued this plan until this spring when he got his first clipper cut, which still wasn’t a close cut because I still love seeing those curls. This way I can simply brush them instead of having to detangle much. I recommend finding a great barber that fits your family and your is comfortable with and being consistent with that one barber. Due to our lifestyle that includes A LOT of travel my son only gets his hair cut when we’re home. I rather be safe than sorry. When it comes to line ups I was also recommended to wait until he could stay completely still and even then, you have to be careful. If you ever thought women were the only ones who prize them edges you were wrong. Young boys don’t need linings that go into their actual hair lining. To be specific I am referring to the start of their darkest hair. A great barber will just line up the light soft “hairs” on young children to save them from receding early.
Boys’ hair need TLC and depending on your styling goals the amount varies. One thing cannot be denied little boys will definitely keep your hands full but his hair care doesn’t have to. Keep it simple and fun and you’ll be tantrum free.
Great references: www.manlycurls.com
www.afrobella.com “Little Boys with Kinks and Coils”